The #1 cause of eating disorders is restrictive dieting
Dieting is not fun and it's not natural
We are wired for survival. If you don't eat you die. So when you take that biology, and then you use your willpower to not eat even if you are hungry...to the point that your body is forced to eat itself (that's where the weight loss comes in) - something happens.
Your body fights back. It will drive up your cravings, turn up your hunger, and put obsessive thoughts about food in your head all day long.
It's not fun. It's not natural. And your body usually wins.
When your body doesn't win, it's called anorexia and yes, many women die from that.
All that stuff that we hate that makes dieting so hard is actually your body's way of protecting you. From dying.
I know, you are saying "I am not going to die if I cut out carbs for 4 weeks"
True, but your body doesn't know that. It just knows that there is an emergency and it's gotta fix it.
But it's not fun. It's miserable to deprive yourself.
One of my mentors says, "dieting is like holding your breath. Some people can do it for longer than others, but in the end, everyone's gotta breathe"
And that is why food may be the ONE thing you can't seem to get a handle on
Often times - perfectionists are binge eaters
So many women I work with are hard working, dynamic, talented, accomplished and powerful people.
Because that quality of "I will do it better and longer than anyone else" has helped them accomplish so many goals.
They overcame alcoholism, they built an amazing career, they got the best grades in school
But then there is this thing with food that really makes them question their identity
"Wait, I am the most accomplished person in my friend group, but I can't get a handle on something as basic as food?!"
It feels really awful
But guess what these accomplished women also outdo everyone else in?
They last for longer. They can do hard things. They can be miserable. They can work hard when it's difficult. They can not eat even when they are hungry. They can get up at 5am to work out. They can eat a different dinner than their family every day for 24 weeks.
And so these powerful and accomplished women - who their skills serve them so well in other areas of their life - have this ONE area of their life (FOOD) totally backfire on them.
They last the longest on diets, so their body fights back the hardest.
Someone else who lasts 3 days dieting and then "falls off the wagon" and says "screw it" just moves on with thier life.
These women who last for months on end, with building hunger and cravings and food obsession, are fighting their biology. And as soon as biology wins, they binge. A lot. To the point of pain and sickness and terror.
And these women are also the best at "picking themselves back up" and do they diet harder, then binge harder, then diet even harder.
Doing "the very best" at both ends of the cycle.
It's beautiful to have those qualities that bring so much success in other areas. But the key is to redirect that zeal into something that makes it better, not worse.
I have so many of these accomplished women in my program right now who are putting their energy into practicing the principles that allow them to be totally free from their binging. That allows them to do exactly what they want because they aren't controlled by their food compulsions. That have hours and hours back in their week because they aren't spending it with food. That now have the time, freedom, and mental energy that they can now direct to what powerful women like this do - change the world.
If you want some help in directing your work into principles that return on your investment and actually end the food crazies, you can book a free session at www.LydiaWente.com/apply